Tuesday Ten: Black Lives Matter Resources

Tuesday Ten: Black Lives Matter Resources

Black lives matter. They do. And it’s worth repeating: Black Lives Matter.

Today is #BlackoutTuesday, a means of identifying with protesters. It originated as #TheShowMustBePaused by Brianna Agyemang and Jamila Thomas, both black female executives in the recording industry, an industry that “has profited predominantly from Black art.”

In solidarity, social media users are encouraged to post a simple black square onto their feed and refrain from posting additional content. The concept is like that of the #AmplifyMelanatedVoices challenge in which white people have been asked to post less and instead read, share, and support people of colour.

It can’t stop there to create real change.

Stand up for what you believe in at a protest, donate, and—perhaps most important for lasting change—educate yourself on how to better support black friends, neighbours, and businesses.

For this week’s Tuesday Ten, I have compiled 10 resource categories below. Remember: it’s the responsibility of nonblack people to educate themselves. I hope these resources help.

Do you have something to share or add? Let me know in the comments or slide into my DMs on IG or Twitter.

Advocacy Organisations

National

  • The Bail Project. On any given night in America, there are nearly half a million people sitting in jail before trial simply because they can’t afford bail. The money bail crisis hits every corner of the U.S., from the largest cities to the smallest towns. The Bail Project provides free bail assistance to low-income individuals who are legally presumed innocent, and whom a judge has deemed eligible for release before trial contingent on paying bail.
  • The Black Lives Matter Global Network fights for racial liberation and justice. They are calling to reappropriate funds from police departments to institutions that support safety and well-being for black communities. Get involved with your local chapter.
  • The NAACP Legal Defense Fund focuses on upholding civil rights and achieving equality through structural change and racial justice. Donate here.
  • Sign this Color of Change petition calling for the end of police violence against Black people.
  • Campaign Zero utilizes research-based policy solutions to end police brutality in the U.S.
  • Unicorn Riot is dedicated to exposing the root causes of social, economic, and environmental issues.

Missouri

Activists (on Instagram)

  • The Equal Justice Initiative is a non-profit organization, in Montgomery, Alabama, that provides legal representation to prisoners who may have been wrongly convicted of crimes, poor prisoners without effective representation, and others who may have been denied a fair trial.
  • Brittany Packnett is an American activist, the co-founder of Campaign Zero, and a co-host of American political podcast Pod Save the People.
  • Black Lives Matter is an international human rights movement, originating in the African-American community, that campaigns against violence and systemic racism towards black people.
  • The Conscious Kid is an education, research and policy organization dedicated to reducing bias and promoting positive identity development in youth.
  • Layla Saad isThe New York Times–bestselling author of the ground-breaking book Me and White Supremacy, the host of Good Ancestor Podcast, and the founder of Good Ancestor Academy.
  • Rachel Elizabeth Cargle writes and lectures on things that exist at the intersection of race and womanhood.
  • Aja Barber is a writer, personal stylist, and style consultant living in South East London. Her work focuses on sustainability, ethics, intersectional feminism, racism and all the ways systems of power effect our buying habits.
  • Chrissy Rutherford is a contributing editor at HarpersBazaar.com

Books

  • The Vanishing Half (by Brit Bennett) considers the lasting influence of the past as it shapes a person’s decisions, desires, and expectations, and explores some of the multiple reasons and realms in which people sometimes feel pulled to live as something other than their origins.
  • White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism (by Robin DiAngelo) explores the counterproductive reactions white people have when their assumptions about race are challenged, and how these reactions maintain racial inequality.
  • So You Want to Talk About Race (by Ijeoma Oluo) offers a hard-hitting, but user-friendly, examination on aspects of white supremacy—from police brutality to the mass incarceration of African Americans—have made it impossible to ignore the issue of race.
  • Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?: And Other Conversations about Race by Beverly Daniel Tatum. Walk into any racially mixed high school and you will see Black, White, and Latino youth clustered in their own groups. Is this self-segregation a problem to address or a coping strategy?
  • I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown. From a powerful new voice on racial justice, an eye-opening account of growing up Black, Christian, and female in middle-class white America.
  • My Sister, the Serial Killer by Oyinkan Braithwaite. When Korede’s dinner is interrupted one night by a distress call from her sister, Ayoola, she knows what’s expected of her: bleach, rubber gloves, nerves of steel and a strong stomach.
  • Such a Fun Age by Kiley Reid. In the midst of a family crisis one late evening, white blogger Alix Chamberlain calls her African American babysitter, Emira, asking her to take toddler Briar to the local market for distraction. There, the security guard accuses Emira of kidnapping Briar, and Alix’s efforts to right the situation turn out to be good intentions selfishly mismanaged.

Social Media Graphics, Wallpapers, Lockscreens

Documentaries/TV Programs

TV Programs

  • When They See Us (2019). In 1989 a jogger was assaulted and raped in New York’s Central Park, and five young people were subsequently charged with the crime. The quintet, labeled the Central Park Five, maintained its innocence and spent years fighting the convictions, hoping to be exonerated.
  • Set in the 1980s, Pose (2018) is a dance musical that explores the juxtaposition of several segments of life and society in New York: the ball culture world, the rise of the luxury Trump-era universe, and the downtown social and literary scene.
  • Black-ish (2014). Dre Johnson has it all—a great job, beautiful wife, four kids and a big home in a classy neighbourhood—but as a black man, he begins to question whether all his success has brought too much cultural assimilation for his family.
  • Dear White People (2017) follows a group of students of color at Winchester University, a predominantly white Ivy League college. The students are faced with a landscape of cultural bias, social injustice, misguided activism and slippery politics.
  • BET is leading the conversation on racial justice with new programming.

Documentaries

  • I Am Not Your Negro (2016). In 1979, James Baldwin wrote a letter to his literary agent describing his next project, “Remember This House.” The book was to be a revolutionary, personal account of the lives and assassinations of three of his close friends: Medgar Evers, Malcolm X and Martin Luther King, Jr.
  • 13th (2016). Filmmaker Ava DuVernay explores the history of racial inequality in the United States, focusing on the fact that the nation’s prisons are disproportionately filled with African-Americans.
  • The Death and Life of Marsha P. Johnson (2017). Filmmakers re-examine the 1992 death of transgender legend Marsha P. Johnson, who was found floating in the Hudson River. Originally ruled a suicide, many in the community believe she was murdered.

Podcasts

  • Living Corporate features a who’s who in the corporate diversity and inclusion space, highlighting the experiences and perspectives of different professionals of color.
  • Code Switch, hosted by journalists who examine the intersections of race, ethnicity and culture and how these themes impact our lives.
  • In Black America is a long-running, nationally syndicated program dedicated to all facets of the African American experience.
  • 1619 is an ongoing project developed by The New York Times Magazine in 2019 with the goal of re-examining the legacy of slavery in the United States and timed for the 400th anniversary of the arrival of the first Africans in Virginia.

Individual Episodes

Music

Black artist voices and songs have transformed the world, throughout the decades and across genres. Here’s a playlist of empowerment and pride.

Essays

Quotes

  • “I am where I am because of the bridges that I crossed. Sojourner Truth was a bridge. Harriet Tubman was a bridge. Ida B. Wells was a bridge. Madame C.J. Walker was a bridge. Fannie Lou Hamer was a bridge.” —Oprah Winfrey
  • “A riot is the language of the unheard.” —Martin Luther King, Jr.
  • “Neither love nor terror makes one blind: indifference makes one blind.” —James Baldwin

Protestor Resources

Protests are sweeping the nation. Here’s how you can properly prepare to participate.

Tuesday Ten: Podcasts

Tuesday Ten: Podcasts

You’ve probably read the data: without a commute during mandated stay-at-home orders in March, listenership of podcasts tumbled. But new data (as of April 22), indicates global podcast listens have increased by 42% and European listens are up by 53%.

Today, I thought I would share my top ten podcast recommendations, including those I listen to daily and some serials I’ve loved from back in the day. Do you have a fave I missed? Share it with me in the comments or slide into my DMs on IG or Twitter.

(BTW, I really like true crime.)

Up First

Daily news podcast by NPR providing a brief overview of news items for the day.

My Favorite Murder

Each week, Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark select a true crime story to recount and discuss.

Crime Junkie

Another weekly true crime podcast.

Unravel True Crime: Snowball (S4)

Kiwi-born Ollie Wards chronicles how his brother’s whirlwind romance with a charismatic Californian con woman ultimately cost his family more than a million dollars. The seven-episode series goes from a sleepy suburban New Zealand to the UK and the US.

The Teacher’s Pet

A 2018 Australian crime podcast that investigated the disappearance of Lynette Dawson. The podcast is on hiatus (and temporarily unavailable in Australia), pending Chris Dawson’s trial for the murder of Lynette.

You Must Remember This

  • Charles Manson’s Hollywood (E44-55)
  • MGM Stories (E56-70)

You Must Remember This is a storytelling podcast exploring the secret and/or forgotten histories of Hollywood’s first century.

Uncover: Satanic Panic (S6)

In the ’80s, Satanic cults were believed to be preying on kids, terrorizing them in dark rituals. There were horrifying allegations. Criminal trials. Lives torn apart. Yet, no solid proof. The podcast unravels what happened.

The Inquiry

I moved The Inquiry up from my Honorable Mentions list because their coverage of the the novel coronavirus has been superb and should be required listening.

The Inquiry gets beyond the headlines to explore the trends, forces and ideas shaping the world with one question and four expert witnesses.

Dr. Death

Christopher Daniel Duntsch is a former neurosurgeon who has been nicknamed Dr. Death for gross malpractice resulting in the death and maiming of 33 patients while working at hospitals in Dallas-Fort Worth.

The podcast is being made into a crime drama TV series with Jamie Dornan, Alec Baldwin, and Christian Slater.

Dirty John

Debra Newell is a successful interior designer. She meets John Meehan, a handsome man who seems to check all the boxes: attentive, available, just back from a year in Iraq with Doctors Without Borders. But her family doesn’t like John, and they get entangled in an increasingly complex web of love, deception, forgiveness, denial, and ultimately, survival.

The podcast was made into a crime drama TV series with Connie Britton and Eric Bana.

Honorable mentions

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2020: My New Year’s Goals

2020: My New Year’s Goals

I don’t like the concept of “resolutions” but I do like to set goals that I can put into place for progressive change.

  1. Take control of the device that is stealing my time. I’m reevaluating my time usage with apps and redefining my relationship with ‘always-on’ work emails (especially the weekends).
  2. This will be the year I finally learn to say ‘no’. I find that I commit myself to things because I feel pressured, I don’t want to let people down, or FOMO.
  3. Accept myself. I have reached a point in my life (approaching 30) that I feel pleased with the person I have become. For too long, I’ve questioned almost every move and overthought so much of what I’ve done. It’s time to accept who I am and be confidence in the person I have become.

4 and 5 are carry over goals from last year, but I like them so much I want to continue them.

  1. Find happiness in the person staring back at me in the mirror every morning. Last year, I found myself to be more critical of my body than ever before. On average, I worked out 5 days a week because I wanted to transform my body into what I saw when scrolled on Instagram. I want to continue that momentum, but I want to resume it for different reasons. (And that shirtless photo? I finally took it.)
  2. Keep reading. I really enjoy it. It’s a wonderful escape from my iPhone and the world war we’re facing. It also makes for great conversation between friends and strangers alike.

I’m curious what you’re looking to accomplish or continue this year. Share yours with me in the comments or slide into my DMs on Instagram or Twitter.

Cheers,

Bobby

 

 

Holiday Gift Guide 2019

Holiday Gift Guide 2019

Finding the perfect gift is, well, challenging. According to research published by the Association for Psychological Science, a good gift is both useful and high-quality. Seems pretty straightforward.

Below, you’ll find a selection of my favorite finds. Happy shopping!

Him

Balenciaga Logo Intarsia Virgin-Wool Blend Sweater, $1,190

Dyson V7 Motorhead Cordless Stick Vacuum Cleaner, $299

The New York Times Custom Birthday Book, $145

Polaroid Originals Everything Box, $119

Miansai Casing Brass Rope Bracelet, $68

Blue Light Blocker, $56

Peter Thomas Roth Water Drench Hyaluronic Cloud Hydra-Gel Eye Patches, $55

Le Labo Fragrances Body Scrub, $46

Ursa Major Let’s Go Shower Kit, $36

Flight 001 5-in-1 Universal Travel Adapter + USB, $35

Men’s Society Personalised Golfer’s Essentials Kit, $35

JAXON LANE 100% Hydrogel Bro Mask, $28

W&P Sphere Ice Tray, $17

Her

Burberry Contrast Logo Graphic Wool & Silk Jacquard Scarf, $300

Dyson V7 Motorhead Cordless Stick Vacuum Cleaner, $299

Zadro Ultra Large Luxury Towel Warmer White, $140

Fujifilm Instax Mini 90 Instant Film Camera, $120

GOOPGLOW Glycolic Overnight Glow Peel Pads, $112

Province Apothecary Dual-Action Jade Facial Roller, $44

Printworks Trivia Game – Movie geek, $41

Glossier The Skincare Set, $40

W&P Porter Bottle, $35

Fire TV Stick, $35

Selfie Cork, $10

Silicone Luggage Tag, $8

Host

Maggie Louise Confections, $105

Palo Santo Incense Gift Box, $53

Domenica Fiore Olio Reserva Olive Oil, $42

Graf Lantz Cozy Carrier Solo, $39

Diptyque Figuier Scented Candle, $36

Capri Blue Iridescent Jar Candle, $30

I Should Have Known That! Trivia Game, $20

Looking for more ideas? Check out my 2018 Holiday Gift Guide.

City Guide: Lisboa, Portugal

City Guide: Lisboa, Portugal

It was not my first time to Lisboa, but this trip was the first time I felt that I really had the opportunity to appreciate how wonderful this city is.

You’ve probably noticed Lisbon creeping into your IG feed and that’s because it’s made a resurgence over the past 5 years with tourism accounting for much of its economic growth.

If you’re visiting Portugal’s capital for the first time, I think three days should be a perfect amount of time to really enjoy and immerse yourself. There are so many things to do in Lisbon that you can be a busy or as chilled as you please.

To start, it’s a good idea to familiarize yourself with Lisbon’s different regions.

  • Belem: The charming district to the west of Lisbon and is the setting for many of the city’s most iconic tourist attractions.
  • Alfama: Begin your adventures in Lisbon here with trendy cafés and a gorgeous panoramic viewpoint.
  • Baixa: The heart of Lisbon with magnificent plazas, wide avenues, and grand architecture.
  • Bairro Alto: Fashionable and stylish by day while trendy and cool by night.

 

What to eat

Piri Piri Chicken, Pastéis de Nata, Sardinhas… There wasn’t one bad meal. Keep in mind, dinner is normally served between 2000 and 2200, depending on whether it’s a weekday or weekend. Anything earlier is a snack or lanche.

  • Pastéis de Nata: My mouth is watering just thinking about these creamy egg custard tarts, with a flaky crust, and a dusting of cinnamon and sugar. Make sure it’s served warm.

Where to eat

What to do

  • Tuk Tuk Tejo: Tuk Tuk’s are a famous method of transport in Asian countries, but these three-wheeled taxis are buzzing all around Lisboa and it’s a really unique way to explore the city for a few hours with a knowledgeable guide.
  • Mesaluisa: If you do only one activity whilst in Lisboa, please make it this market to table cooking class with Luísa. This is not simply a cooking class, it is an emersion in Lisboa. It was an eye-opening experience that you will never receive on any tour.  that you will never get in a tour. You’ll begin at Mercado da Ribeira (aka Time Out Market) where you will determine the menu and Luísa will guide you through the market gathering all the ingredients necessary whilst having lovely conversations with the vendors. Next you will go to Luísa’s kitchen where you will be greeted by the lovely Ana and together you all will prepare the meal, drink wines, and swap life stories. Luísa and Ana make you feel like old friends for a visit and you will leave planning to return. I booked this through Airbnb Experiences.
  • Eduardo VII Park
  • Tram 28
  • Explore Belém: Padrão dos Descobrimentos (Monument to the Discoveries), Belém Tower, Jerónimos Monastery
  • Explore Barrio Alto & Alfama
  • Basílica da Estrela
  • Jardim Botânico (Botanical Garden): One of my favourite things to do in every city is a visit to the botanical garden. This garden is quiet and serene right in the middle of bustling streets.
  • Viniportugal: Wines of Portugal Tasting Room offering the opportunity to taste wines from different regions of the country.
  • Go on a day trip to Sintra

Where to stay

The Details

  • Currency: Euro (€) and many places accept credit cards
  • Language: Portuguese. Speaking Spanish won’t win you any favours.
  • Weather: Summers are hot and crowded, while winters are mild but rainy. The seasons of change, spring (March-May) and autumn (September-October), offer a sweet spot.
  • LGBT: Portuguese society is very accepting of homosexuality and Lisbon has visible LGBT scenes, with gay bars, nightclubs, and other venues, as well as an annual Pride parade.

Are you stopping through Portugal anytime soon? Share it with me in the comments or slide into my DMs on IG or Twitter.

PS: Please contact me with any questions as you start planning your getaway.

My ~*extra*~ In-flight Skincare Routine

My ~*extra*~ In-flight Skincare Routine

I don’t know about you, but air travel always dries out my skin and leaves me prone to breaking out upon arrival at my destination (it’s the worst!). But, if I’m proactive throughout the flight, I can arrive at my destination with much more cooperative skin.

#DYK: Cabin air is often less than 20% humidity, whereas at home, humidity is 30-50% or more.

Over the last few years, establishing a skincare routine whilst flying has become a mission and I’ve settled on a lineup of products to help. So, after years of international travel, I think I’ve finally perfected my long-haul skincare routine.

Btw: Everything in this routine can be done from the comfort of your seat — no need for back and forth to the lavatory.

To start…

While I don’t travel wearing makeup, I like to start with a clean slate before I begin my skincare regimen. I love Cetaphil’s Gentle Makeup Removing Wipes because they contain aloe vera, green tea, and chamomile. My skin always feels smooth and fresh. It’s good practice to clean your skin once onboard, as well as before landing because cabin air isn’t hygienic.

Right after the first meal is served, my regime kicks into high gear ✔️

Face Masks

I always travel with face masks (including for when I arrive and am fighting dry, puffy-faced jet-lag). I prefer jelly masks focused on hydration vs. paper masks (they dry too quickly in the recycled cabin air). Most masks indicate a 10-15 minute window to let them set, but I try to go for about 45 minutes. If you feel uncomfortable applying a face mask, fear not — opt for Glow Recipe’s Watermelon + AHA Glow Sleeping Mask. Gently pat the mask into skin until absorbed. Once you’ve hit the 45 minute mark, wipe it off with the Cetaphil Gentle Makeup Removing Wipes.

Serum

Once the mask has begun harden and lose moisture, remove it and tap the mask’s serum into skin. Now apply Ole Henriksen’s Truth Serum. Pause and enjoy the citrus scent.

Eye Cream

Next, I whip out my skyn ICELAND Icelandic Relief Eye Pen and dab the cream gently on under my eye area. I absolutely swear by their Relief Eye Cream in a jar for dark circles, so this on-the-go pen is a necessity.

Moisturizer

Now it’s time to lock in the serum and eye cream with an ultra-rich moisturizing cream. It’s a must-have for applying multiple times throughout the duration of the flight. La Mer’s Crème de la Mer is my obsession, but if the price tag is too high, grab Kiehl’s Ultra Facial Cream.

Sleep

At this point, I’ve arrived at another critical moment in this routine: sleep. Once the eye cream and moisturizer have had time to sink into my skin and I’ve made myself comfortable (as comfortable as one can be), I turn off my overhead light, recline, and put on my Slip Silk Eye Mask. Slip’s eye mask is crafted from the highest grade mulberry silk with the perfect amount of shine, thickness, softness, and durability.

Quick side note: Right before you slip on your eye mask, add a thick layer of Carmex Classic Lip Balm to your lips.

Good morning!

About an hour before touch down, I start to prep my skin for arrival. I use Cetaphil Gentle Makeup Removing Wipes to remove excess product and any dirt from the recycled air.

Prepare for arrival…

Face Mist

Even with my routine, I’ll wake up to dry skin. I’ll mist Tata Harper’s Hydrating Floral Essence on my cleaned skin. If you’re sat next to a rando, this may be a good moment to head to the lavatory to spritz your skin and brush your teeth.

Eye Masks

Next, I apply skyn ICELAND’s Hydro Cool Firming Eye Gels and leave on whilst I eat breakfast and hydrate with still water. These eye masks help my face mimic a good night’s sleep, even if I didn’t have one.

Lip Treatment

My final step is swiping on Tata Harper’s Be True lip treatment. It helps lips look fuller and feel softer.

Ps: I live and die by Glossier’s Zit Stick. This portable pen is 5% Benzoyl Peroxide with Tea Tree Oil and Capryloyl Salicylic Acid.

This may seem like a lot of products and steps, but feel free to pick and choose what works best for you. Do you have a fave I missed? Share it with me in the comments or slide into my DMs on IG or Twitter.

Happy Pride 2019 🏳️‍🌈

This weekend, I’m celebrating the final weekend of Pride Month in my This Is A Gay Sock socks from Bonobos.

Visibility of the LGBTQ matters. When the community is actually seen by society (as opposed to being unseen or invisible), people are able to see something represented, they’re better able to understand and grasp who those people are, and this creates an important shift in social consciousness.

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This weekend is significant. We celebrate the 50th anniversary of Stonewall. On June 28, 1969, New York police raided the Stonewall Inn, the largest gay bar in the U.S. (at the time). Raids on gay clubs were common, but this time was different. Outside, protesters threw coins, then beer cans, and at some point, hurled bricks, fuel-filled bottles, and garbage bins at the officers inside. The first Pride march occurred one year later to commemorate the riots.

Fifty years ago, being gay was virtually illegal and anti-discrimination laws nonexistent. Every year since proves to be pivotal, especially now, as it’s met with the aggressive roll back of LGBTQ rights from the Tr*mp administration. I’m sad when I think back to the 2016 rally when he declared, “I will fight for you while Hillary Clinton brings in more people that will threaten your freedoms and beliefs.”

A few items to note…

Opposition to the Equality Act (H.R. 5); Transgender people were banned from serving in the military; Transgender people in federal prisons now housed by sex assigned at birth; Retracting plans to count LGBT people in the 2020 Census; Declining to appoint an LGBT liaison for the White House; Religious liberty policy could allow federal employees and federal contractors to discriminate against LGBT people; The Justice Department argued the Civil Rights Act of 1964 doesn’t protect gay workers from discrimination; State Department cancelled visas for unmarried same-sex partners of diplomats to the United States; Vice President Mike Pence has a history of discrimination against the LGBT community

Tuesday Ten: Pride Capsule Collections

Tuesday Ten: Pride Capsule Collections

It’s #PrideMonth all over the country, as well as the world. And you know what that means — brands are cashing in and launching limited-edition rainbow design collections.

Here’s a look as some of my personal favourites.

Todd Snyder New York x Champion

20% of sales will be donated to the National Park Foundation to support Stonewall National Monument.

ASOS x GLAAD

GLAAD has teamed up with ASOS and 100% of the proceeds from the ASOSxGLAAD collection will be donated to support GLAAD’s culture changing work.

American Eagle x It Gets Better

100% of sales from American Eagle’s 2019 Pride collection will benefit the It Gets Better Project.

H&M

For this year’s Pride, 10% of the global sales price from this collection will support the work of the United Nations’ Free & Equal campaign.

GAP

Gap + Pride Collection will done 15% of sales to the United Nations Foundation in support of the UN Free & Equal Campaign for LGBTI equality.

EXPRESS

Express will donate 25% of the net income to GLAAD to accelerate acceptance for the LGBTQ+ community.

boohoo

10% from each sale will be donated between two amazing pride charities: OutRight Action International and LGBT foundation.

Original Penguin

Original Penguin Pride collection supports ALL OUT, a global movement for love and equality.

Hollister

Up to $25,000 in proceeds from the Pride Collection will be donated to GLSEN.

Parke & Ronen

 

Do you have a fave I missed? Share it with me in the comments or slide into my DMs on IG or Twitter.

Featured image via Michael Tercha/Chicago Tribune